By Caryn Rousseau
ASSOCIATED PRESS WRITER
10/07/2009

While in Miami on vacation, Nancy Tringali Piho's 2-year-old son grabbed a piece of octopus from the table's ceviche platter. "He just couldn't get enough of it," she said. "All the people in the restaurant were turning around. They couldn't believe it."
Piho turned the episode into the title of her new book, "My Two-Year-Old Eats Octopus: Raising Children Who Love to Eat Everything" (Bull Publishing, $16.95). She's one of several culinary authors with recent books offering personal stories and tips for parents looking to share the meals they love with their children — no matter what's on the menu.
"When we go to restaurants, if they have a kid's menu, that's the last thing we look at," said Hugh Garvey, features editor at Bon Appetit magazine and author with Matthew Yeomans of "The Gastrokid Cookbook: Feeding a Foodie Family in a Fast-Food World" (Wiley, $22.95).
Garvey said his 8-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son eat artisanal cheeses, anchovy and olive pizza and even bear meat.
"We say don't cook down to your kids," Garvey said. "Don't condescend to them through food. Let them try anything and everything and leave it up to them. You can bias them, and we try not to do that to them."
Emily Franklin is author of "Too Many Cooks: Kitchen Adventures With 1 Mom, 4 Kids, and 102 Recipes" (Voice, $23.99). Her goal was to introduce her children to 100 different types of food over a year.
"We felt like the world is becoming a giant nugget — chicken nuggets and pizza nuggets," Franklin said. "Kids are scared of trying new things. They rely on routine, but just being able to understand new stuff is not scary. Their willingness to try new things across the board is remarkable now."
The movement comes out of a generation of foodie parents who want to share their culinary loves with their children, the authors said.
"As we have become sophisticated with our own palates, our children have followed along with us," said Tanya Wenman Steel, editor of Epicurious.com and co-author of the book "Real Food for Healthy Kids" (William Morrow, $29.95).
"We didn't give up going to good restaurants and we didn't leave our kids behind," Garvey said. "We held on to our food ideals and we're still cooking great foods within the constraints of a family."
Other parents see it as a form of bonding.
Matthew Amster-Burton, who wrote "Hungry Monkey: A Food-Loving Father's Quest to Raise an Adventurous Eater" (Houghton Mifflin, $23), fed his daughter mushed and cut up pad thai and spicy enchiladas when she was 8 months old.
Before she was a mother, Franklin was a chef on luxury yachts. Food allows her to tell her children about that part of her life, she said.
"If you really love food, you want to able to share it with people who you love," Franklin said. "It would be a shame to just share peanut butter and jelly."
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We were just talking about this (not this exact article, but about what we're going to feed our kids, when we have them) over in Conservative Sugar! I'm a big fan of the whole, "the kids eat what I'm eating" approach. When I have kids, if they try a food several times and genuinely don't like it, I'll make them something similar when I want that food. But, I'm not going to cater to my kid's every whim when it comes to eating. They'll be able to try much more interesting things that way anyway!
(On a side note, while I think this is good, I hate when people try too hard to fashion their children in their own image.)
1I grew up vegan and didn't know I wasn't supposed to like vegetables, so I liked them.
2My Kid will try anything - I'm the big food baby in our house.
3I grew up eating everything from vegetables to seafood even pickled pig lips. I tried anything and asked nothing.
4I think I saw on Supernanny once that it takes something like 7 tries to find out if a kid truly doesn't like something.
I ate whatever my mom put on the table, she was no short order cook! That's how I plan to be... but I also got to cook and bake with her and that made me want to eat whatever we made too!
5I was happy to go to bed hungry if I didn't like what was served, and willing to vomit to prove my point that whatever horrible thing my mom was serving might kill me.
6It was rarely about taste because if it didn't pass the look & smell test, there was no way I'd taste it.
oh the smellers drive me crazy!! just eat it!!
my godson once sat with peas in his mouth for 45 because he refused to eat them. 45 minutes!!! he was 2!!
7My kind of guy - I hate peas!
8all peas??
i'm not a fan of frozen, but i love the canned ones.
9I put peas in my carbonara sauce. Canned ones!
I don't believe in cooking down to kids, either. My mom made everything from pizza to fried eggplants and tofu. And I don't want to know how upset she would have been had I ever refused any of it.
10A little off topic, but I'm joining a CSA delivery right now. So excited!
11HF I am SO jealous! I really dug and dug to find a CSA around here (there are so many farms!) and there isn't one! WTF!!! The closest would have me drive an hour and a half every week... I just can't justify that.
So bummed.
12awwww sorry haus! I'm trying to find the one that is the cheapest and with a drop off close to my apartment. I make soups and stews all fall and winter, so a CSA share actually makes more sense for me now then it did in the summer.
13I don't cook down to my kids, but my daughter is very picky. My son will try anything. I don't foce anything down their throats, but If my daughter doesn't want to eat what I cook, she has to prepare her own dinner.
14I remember eating everything when I was a kid, simply because it was either healthy food or no food at all. And well, I was hungry. So I ate. But she never forced me to eat something that I really didn't like.
Like pepper. Green, red, I couldn't eat it when I was young. Now I love it. So sometimes, I think it's better to let the children move along at their own pace. Though I still hate pickles to this day. Yes, I know. Weird. But some of you hate peas...
15i love pickles!
16I also hate tripes and black pudding. And I'm not keen on red meat but I will eat it sometimes because I don't want my doctor to tell me I'm anemic again. And also, and please don't hurt me, I don't like chocolate. The Swiss branch of my family has already disowned me.
17i am addicted to pickles! it's actually a problem. haha.
18I was more of a grilled cheese and hot dog kid. Still love the grilled cheese, which is strange since my mom would cook Thai food or buffalo burgers- stuff normal kids wouldn't have.
19Send me your chocolate Tulipe, I'll send you any peas that come my way.
20@ stephley : works for me !
21i feel your pain tulipe, i know what it's like to not like something that it seems everybody else loves.
for me, it's strawberries. i hate those things!
22I ate PB&Js as a kid.
I still won't eat nuts, tomatoes, onions, or mushrooms. People think I'm crazy.
23I'll cook most things for the Kid, even rolled sushi for her and I avert my eyes when I'm near a seafood counter, but I can't watch her eat things like octopus because it makes me ill.
24Ugh... I don't think I'd be able to serve my kid octopus because the thought alone makes me nauseated.
25LOL...you're a good mom steph. I avert my eyes near a seafood counter too!
I couldn't bare to handle octopus...yikes. I'd
Roar I think that's a good method to use. Making her prepare her own dinner I mean.
26Harmony!
for the CSA! I'm excited to hear about all the delicious things you cook up
(besides trouble)!
I love this article. This is key, in my opinion:
27"We felt like the world is becoming a giant nugget — chicken nuggets and pizza nuggets," Franklin said. "Kids are scared of trying new things. They rely on routine, but just being able to understand new stuff is not scary. Their willingness to try new things across the board is remarkable now."
@snarkypants : how on earth can anyone not like stawberries ? Oh, wait, I think the same way some people don't like chocolate...
Anyway, I know it's weird when people don't like something you really like. For me, the taste of chocolate makes me sick. I'm not allergic or anything, it's just after a tiny bite, I will get nauseated. What about you and strawberries ? Is it too sweet or is it the consistency of the strawberry itself ?
28i think it's the mainly the consistency. i haven't had one in years (obviously), but i'm very picky about the textures, so i'm assuming that's the main reason. i find them hard to swallow.
but i also hate strawberry shakes, etc., that don't have the weird texture. so i dunno, it's pretty weird. i don't like blueberries or cherries either, so i just say that i don't like things that end in "erry"
29So you think that Christmas shouldn't be merry, you don't like to take the ferry, and you won't wear Burberry... I love it !
I'm with you on the consistency though. I'm not a big fan of oysters, not so much because they taste bad, but because they're kind of gooey...
30hahaha there's some truth to that. i'm jewish and all the girls here wear burberry scarves and boots, so i'd pass on those. but i have taken a ferry a few times in my life. haha
yeah i hate gooey stuff. i hate jello. unless it's a jello shot. somehow i can force those down
31tulipe you live in paris and no steak tartare?? i had it last time i was there and i loved it!
i don't like oysters or mussels or anything like that. consistency reminds me of snot... gross. i don't like mushrooms but i'll eat them if they're served to me.
32Same here about hating the jello / not having so much trouble with jello shots. There's gotta be some kind of powerful magic at work here...
(Once, I was on a ferry from France to Ireland and I felt really sick. So maybe it's because ferry ends with "erry". Or maybe it was because of the sea raging. Who knows ?)
33@ haus : I've only eaten steak tartare 5 times max in my life. Because it's very nourishing and I haven't been able to finish it once. I eat half of it and that's it, I'm done. Everytime, I feel like I wasted an opportunity to eat until my stomach bursts...
34Cooking, learning about food, ingredients are passions of mine that i certainly want to share with my kids.
35I hate the idea of dumbing down food for kids, my fav food when i was a child was mussels, my parent's rule was I had to at least try something before declaring my dislike. I was also lucky though, as my father is an excellent cook. My husband did not like most veggies until we were married, cuz he was raised with over cooked boiled veggies that lacked all flavor.
Kid menus at restaurants make me ill- mostly all fried, unhealthy choices. My brother in law just lets his kids draw on the menus, and picks adult choices that are healthier. Fries and chicken nuggets shoudlnt be the only option for dining out with kids!
Thanks for sharing, Harmony!! : ) This makes me really excited to reproduce. I mean, it's not the only reason, but...sharing food. It's-a nice. And I LOVE food: I love to share it, I love to eat it, I love to prepare it, I love to look at it and smell it. I love you, Food. We are friends. And so too shall you be with my progeny.
36p.s. that soup in the photo looks stupid delicious.
37I was happy to go to bed hungry if I didn't like what was served, and willing to vomit to prove my point that whatever horrible thing my mom was serving might kill me.
It was rarely about taste because if it didn't pass the look & smell test, there was no way I'd taste it.
Oh Steph, how much do I love thee.
As for myself and my childhood...I was also raised under the "try it once before you decide you hate it" philosophy. Tried mushrooms once, hate them. Tried avocados once, hate them too. Tried onions once, hated them until about a year ago. I'm slowly learning to love peppers (the green bell peppers are still off the list, milder orange and yellow ones are allowed). Tomatoes are a like/dislike depending on how they're prepred. I can't stand the texture of raw tomatoes, but I love salsa. So I'll only eat the puree style. Cooked tomato products are ok (like soups and pasta sauces), but only if there are no chunks of tomato or small squishy chunks.
My parents never catered to my dislikes either. They'd cook what they wanted to, and I'd eat around whatever I didn't like. I was famous for picking out the tiny bits of mushrooms from casseroles containing cream of mushroom soup. I was an extremely picky eater, but you'd never know it by all of the things my parents made for us.
38And as far as my kids go, I'll use the philosophy my parents used.
39those are some small bits in cream of mushroom soup!
40My parents were of the 'clean or plate or else philosophy'. My mother would try to leave stuff out if she knew my sister and I wouldn't eat it, but there were times we had to just deal with it. Now my mom says, "Get over it. Pick it out and give it to me. You aren't 4 anymore."
41I grew up eating Cows Tongue, Head Cheese, Liver and onions, brussel sprouts. Your kid will eat what you make, or they will go hungry. You arent a short order cook, so dont cater to them!
42haha me too on the tongue thing CG! my sister and i used to love tongue sandwiches at my grandparent's house. although, we didn't even realize what we were eating for a few years. then i think we might have gotten grossed out and stopped for a while.
43Haus it drove my parents NUTS!
They tried convincing me that I wouldn't taste them, but just
the fact that they were in there meant they needed to be removed.
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